Do you really need a dream?

follow your dreamsYou often hear the advice to follow your dreams, but do your really need to a dream to be happy?

Ann Smarty, the founder of MyBlogU (where I’ve been spending lots of time lately) shares:

I think I always have a dream. Sometimes it seems really tiring to always have something you are pursuing but I guess that’s part of my character. Many people seem to be just enjoying life being perfectly happy where they are (or maybe they just seem being happy) but I always have something looming ahead…

That makes me wonder what I’d be like if I had no dream… Could I be happier?”

From personal experience I know that it’s possible to be happy without a dream for a period of time. I don’t believe that it’s possible to be happy long term.

I remember a time in my life when I was completely, blissfully happy exactly where I was. I’d just had a baby boy. I was on maternity leave and had no immediate obligations other than to look after my baby. I’d immersed myself in motherhood and I wanted nothing else.

Then my maternity leave was over and I realised that I didn’t want to go back to work. I extended my maternity leave. Then I resigned altogether and I looked for something I could do without leaving my baby to go to the office. Our finances were fine and I didn’t really need to work, but back then my self-esteem was heavily dependent on the amount of money I was making, so I felt that I had to contribute. That’s when my search for balance and more meaningful work started, and my dreams began to take shape.

Had I not felt that I had to work, maybe, my happiness could have lasted longer. But sooner or later I’d have arrived to the point of craving more creative expression and more meaning for me as a person, not just as a mother.

How does a dream change your life?

After I found my dream I had a motivation that wasn’t there before. A pull towards something. It’s an amazing feeling.” ~ Martita from LuminescentDiva

Being able to decide on a goal with 100% certainty puts me in the driver seat to mapping out the steps I’m going to take to get there. It seems everyday I have new ideas for reaching my goal and be creative in my pursuit. ” ~ Christin from Pampered Teacher

As you can see, having a dream is more about the process than the destination and this is been my experience, too. I have something to look forward to when I get up in the morning, something that’s just for me. I get to come up with ideas, play, create, experiment and connect with people who get it. Ok, I’ll admit it, my dreams are also a constant source of doubts, frustration and fear, but these are just like growing pains that I need to overcome to get to the other side.

What if you don’t have a dream, but you want one? You don’t have to have every little detail worked out before you start following your dreams. You can simply decide on a general direction, connect with your core energy to guide you and start creating your map as you go.

What does it feel like to you to have a dream? Do you think you could be happy without one?