Creating space for your dreams

following your dreamsIn a recent survey, a few of you shared that you didn’t know what your dream was (I’m keeping the survey open. If you’d like to participate, check it out here – one question only!). It didn’t surprise me – we often get so busy with our day-to-day responsibilities and so tired that we get disconnected from ourselves. I’ve been there a million times. I still have times when my only dream is to sleep for a week straight.

How can you find your way back to your dreams?

Here are some thoughts shared by Phil Turner from

When I lose touch with who I am, I take a day away from the computer, work in the garden, go for a walk and spend some time on my own. Sometimes I will drive to the beach and walk on the sand to just chill out. In the evening I will read a book (the old-fashioned, paper variety).

The next day, freshly chilled, I will get up at 4 or 5am, sit at the computer with Scapple. (Scapple is a low cost program with 30 day free trial, that’s 30 days of actual USE. It is like having a whiteboard on the screen.) I will brainstorm, posting notes on the screen and then working backwards and forwards in a logical fashion. In 3 hours I can have a new game plan, BUT the chill day beforehand is essential.”

Sometimes, taking one day is enough. Often, you’ll need a lot longer, but I agree that creating some space for yourself is an essential step to gaining clarity. What could you do?

Get more sleep

Sleep deprivation is the worst dream killer for me. I struggle to make sleep a priority all the time, but when I feel disconnected the first thing I do is clear my schedule as much as possible, take naps with my daughter and start going to sleep a bit earlier.

When I came to Bulgaria to visit my parents last year, I slept every time my baby slept – I had a nap every day and I went to bed early with her. It took me three weeks to start feeling like a human being again and then I got brave enough to do something I’ve been wanting to do for a long time – I went to Ukraine with my three kids. I can’t say it was an easy trip, but we had a good time and my kids got to see Ukraine when it was still a friendly, peaceful place.

This year it hasn’t worked out the same way, because I’ve been trying to squeeze in my freelance work, but I’ll have to make some time to catch up on sleep soon.

Schedule some time to do what you want to do

I can hear you thinking, ‘Easier said than done’. I know, I’m in the same boat, too.  It doesn’t have to be a lot of time… it could be just 15-20 minutes a day, but give yourself that time unconditionally. Ask yourself what you want to do and do it without gilt (it’s amazing how guilty we can feel if we spend just 15 minutes on something seemingly unproductive, isn’t it?).

It make take weeks or months, or it may happen immediately, but your dreams will start revealing themselves.

What do you do to create space for your dreams?