Yes, this is a pregnancy announcement.
I’ve had the so-called ‘morning’ sickness every single moment, every day, every night for the last 9 weeks. I’ve been counting down to the end of the first trimester, when things are supposed to get better, but at 13.5 weeks I’ve run out of days to count. I know some women stay with the sickness throughout the entire pregnancy and it’s time to accept that I might be one of those women this time around. So I thought I’d try and make peace with the morning sickness and look for the good things it brought into my life.
Morning sickness has given me clarity about my priorities.
Self-care comes first at the moment, before even the care for my children. Otherwise a time might come when my children need me and I’m not available. Like the time I told my daughter I’d just rest for 5 minutes and take her to the park. Then I passed out for two hours leaving my 3-year-old on her own. She probably tried waking me up…
Morning sickness has highlighted just how wonderful my children are.
- They are compassionate. I wasn’t going to tell them too early about the baby, but when my son saw me sick day after day he kept on asking ‘ Are you ok?’, ‘Have you been to the doctor?’, ‘You have to go to the doctor!’. Soon I felt I had to explain myself just to put his mind at ease. And my daughter keeps on bringing me her special toy that is supposed to make everything better…
- They are infinitely creative. I thought I’d need to use the TV to keep them occupied when I couldn’t give them much attention, but I didn’t need to turn on the TV once. They played and played and played. racing cars, trains, going on holiday, doctors, hairdressers, school, swimming…
- They are independent… although I might have taken advantage of that too often. The other day my son declared that he didn’t want any more jobs.
Morning sickness has freed me of guilt.
We do the best we can most of the time and we still feel guilty. Can we have done more? Can we have done better? When I feel the way I do now it’s clear that I might not be doing much, but it’s the absolutely best that I can do under the circumstances. There is no room for trying harder and doing more. So there is no room for guilt.
I was hoping to write a different kind of post today… something like ‘Grateful for the end of morning sickness”. Well, it didn’t happen. At least I can be grateful for all these wonderful insights that morning sickness has given me.
What are you grateful for this week?